Blond girl with perfect face studying herself in the mirror.

The ideal of perfection is a cruel task master. At times it can be motivating and at times it can actually stop our progress completely.
It stands to reason that perfection can be paralyzing because, in this physical world, it is impossible to be perfect. We don’t really even know what perfection is because it is un-real – it is opinion, not fact, and it is fleeting. There is a new “Perfect” every minute.

When we have hard fast ideas of how we should be and how things should be based on our standards of perfection, not only are we doomed to be disappointed, but we eliminate a lot of people and experiences because they don’t measure up or because we are afraid that we may fall short.

Striving for perfection may have begun early in life. Parents and teachers may have set high standards trying to insure your success. Or maybe there was competition among siblings because being the best at school or sports won special attention from parents. Maybe it has been created by competition in the work place or among your peer group.

Or maybe it’s just a whole lot of self-judgment and unforgiveness. Looking back at past mistakes, feeling guilty, and being determined not to repeat them leads to impossible standards of perfection. It also keeps judgment alive not only about what you do but also about what other people do and creates a filter of sorts through which you are constantly figuring out what and who to avoid to avoid making a mistake again. And this over cautious effort totally distracts you from the freedom and true perfection of the present moment. Trying to steer clear of people or circumstances because you might repeat a past mistake takes your eye off the prize of just being happy.

“I must be aware of bad things, and guarded about bad things, and I must watch out for bad things by trying to guide myself toward good things. You can’t do both at the same time. You can’t watch out for bad things, and allow good things at the same time. It is vibrationally not possible. Your Inner Being is always guiding you toward what you are wanting. It is never protecting you from something else.”

—Abraham

Our hard fast ideas of who and how we have to be fly in the face of Life. Which is perfection in its fluid expression and flexibility.
We say “it has to be this way, I have to be this way” and Life says “I love you, your beautiful, let’s just roll with this and see where it takes us – Trust me!
The energy of Life Itself – our “Self” – is constant motion and expansion. It is everyone and everything and judges nothing as imperfect. Creativity – Life – Source is perfection; expanding, experiencing what comes up as it comes up. It is a free flowing energy and it is our intrinsic nature. A personal example of this is you expressing your creativity and living your life in love with yourself. Allowing yourself and everyone else to be exactly who they are while you focus on being true to yourself and true to your truth – your Divine expression. Cutting yourself some slack and referring to how you feel in the present moment, making feeling good the most important thing. In that is joy and the ability to make the present moment a success which leads to the next successful moment.

Perfection in the physical is based largely in competition and competition is always based on the premise that there is not enough. If we eliminate our ideas of perfection we open ourselves to possibility and expansion.

“How much time he gains who does not look to see what his neighbor says or does or thinks, but only at what he does himself, to make it just and holy.”

—Marcus Aurelius

There is freedom in being true to your heart, your inner wisdom no matter what anyone else is doing. You are massive, creative energy – Trust the perfection that you already are and let it unfold. Proudly be the only person that can be called you and have fun!

Namaste’

Kelly