We are all creating our lives every moment we live. Our thoughts, words, actions and expectations create our reality. Like it or not that is how it works because it is Universal law. Creating our lives doesn’t start when we find out about it. Be nice if it did but we’ve been doing this all of our adult lives. By the time you were 17 or 18 everything that was in your life you had brought to you. You created whatever was sitting in your lap, good, bad or indifferent. So blaming your current state on your parents or anyone else for that matter really gets you nowhere. The more you blame the more you live in a place of weakness. Blaming is basically saying that you are not in control of who you are and what you do but it’s all a result of how you were raised and who did or didn’t do whatever to or for you. Blaming is out the window! It is disempowering and it’s a lie. It may be true that someone hurt you or didn’t give you the guidance or support you felt you should have had. But the deal is that your Higher Self, your Spirit chose the circumstances of your birth and the family you would be born into because it was the right situation for your evolution as a Spirit in a body and your Spirit was ready to be here. As far as Spirits are concerned the earth plane is the place to be. If you are not incarnate you are not evolving or growing. Evolution is working through your personal stuff and being able to let it go. Your personal stuff is the stuff that scares you, the stuff that makes you feel guilty, the stuff that tells you that you are not enough, not good enough, not smart enough, not rich enough, not pretty enough. The stuff that is all lies. Because the truth is that you are perfect, lacking nothing a spark of the Divine however that looks to you.
The first step to clearing that stuff is to take responsibility for all of it. Own it. No matter how ugly it is to look at take responsibility for creating it knowing that you can create something different. You can create what you want in your life. When you take responsibility and stop blaming everyone including yourself it’s like you arrive at a threshold and you are ready to step through a new door way. A doorway of consciousness and you are empowered because you have accepted the fact that only you can change your life.