Recently I was asked a very interesting question; “ How do I take care of myself the way I take care of other people – how do I refocus that outgoing energy in my own direction so that I can feel strong and not depleted?”
The fact of the matter is that taking care of others in some shape or form is part of the “Human Being” package we signed up for before we came to this planet. Whether it is through our work, family, friends or just daily life it is part of the deal because we are all one and we grow through our interactions with each other. It is the reason we’re here. What is not part of the deal, however, is that we are excluded from that care. The only way to correct that is to change our perception of our importance in our own lives. Unless your happiness is important to you it won’t be important to anyone else. Like attracts like.
How do you maintain your power while you do your job, raise your family, deal with aging parents, etc.? Life is filled with demands, that’s just how it its. But if you love, honor and respect yourself first you are not subject to those demands, you are their master.
It is not selfish to focus on yourself it is filling the well from which you draw to give to others. It is empowering and if you are giving yourself love and appreciation you will attract that in your outer world. To the extent that you respect yourself you will be respected and you will treat others with respect. This is a graceful way to live, you are not demanding respect you are embodying it and therefore attracting it. We do live from the inside out. Whatever occupies our consciousness will be our experience in our outer world. You cannot expect to be given what you do not give yourself.
You are the most important person in your life – the center of your universe – supreme in your own orbit. I want to share three practices that you can use to treat yourself as such because your life will only ever reflect to you your value of yourself.
The absolute most important practice that I have is my time in meditation and prayer before the start of my day. In my view connecting to Source is self-love. The peace and clarity that is established at the beginning of my day goes before me and makes my way. It is my foundation and my reference throughout the day. There are no words for how valuable it is.
The second practice is to make time to do what you love to do. If you wait for the opportunity it probably won’t show up so you have to make time. Give it importance – put it in your day timer if you have to. For me, it is my yoga practice and painting. For you it might be gardening, or shopping, going to a gallery or some spa time. Maybe it’s just a nap or an hour or two to read a book or just some time to do nothing. Whatever it is it is important so give it priority.
The third practice is to keep your word to yourself. If you decide that you are going to do something just for you don’t bail on yourself. Don’t talk yourself out of it or get busy with other things and let it slide. Your word is your bond even with yourself. Honor it and you will see the Universe honor you.
That Infinite Self within you wants the best for you that’s why It gives you your dreams and desires to be more, have more and do more. It rejoices in your success and happiness because It is expressed through them!
Self-love feels good and feeling good is alignment to Source. From that magnanimous space you have an abundance of love and energy to give to others and it creates a powerful circle of giving and receiving and joy.
Your happiness is the most significant contribution that you could make. In your reaching for happiness, you are opening a vortex which makes you an avenue for the Well-being to flow through you. And anything that is your object of attention under those conditions, benefits by the infusion of your Well-being.
Love and a Million Blessings